Choosing Happiness

I've been seeing a lot of posts about how happiness is a choice. People talk about how happiness should not depend on things happening outside of you and that it should just come from within you. If seeing a post like this makes you feel like crap, well guess what you should because it's not true.  What's not often talked about, especially in the spiritual world, is that we are an interdependent species. We need connection, we need safety, we need validation and a safe space to create and express ourselves with the people in our world in order to maintain our well-being. Happiness is a byproduct of all the choices we make from day to day and all the experiences we've had in our lives. If we are struggling to find happiness it is up to us to first understand ourselves, our feelings and our needs at the most fundamental level to then make the choices we need to make to align with the people, the places and the experiences we need to create our joy. Joy and Pain coexist. We cannot have one without the other. It is when we can be in our most authentic self, be present with our trauma, and hold space for all our beautiful diverse aspects that we can truly find and experience happiness. 

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